About me
My Journey
How I started offering Male-centered therapy
Since hitting puberty and getting thrown headfirst into adolescence, I started facing many situations that come with that age: struggling to find who I was, getting interested romantically in the opposite sex, wanting to create a friend group of my age but failing to, and the like.
I didn’t have the best social experiences when young and my father was not a strong figure for me, so that left a space when it came to older males I could look up to and learn how to be them. The only replacement I could find was the internet (with dial-up connection, imagine) and any blog posts/forums/books I could find about the many needs and questions I had.
It took a formidable amount of time, trial-and-error and pain to finally have an idea of who I wanted to be.
But this approach aside from how taxing it was and how many nights I spent alone in my room wishing for a better tomorrow, was the only available alternative at the time. This is true for many young modern-day men, as seen whenever I log into related forums or hear their stories in my clinic. One thing though, is that this approach also needs a tremendous amount of luck. Luck to eventually find the correct information and trust it while still not having a good discerning eye as to what was legit and what wasn’t; and luck to eventually start finding helpful, like-minded people who could support me when I invariably screwed up.
Male-centered Therapy
A very new and much needed type of mental health alternative.
What is Male-centered therapy? It’s a professional service that takes the known and effective psychological methods and theories currently available, while also introducing a male-centered perspective when approaching issues brought up in sessions.
I have spent considerable time learning about the male gender, what culture has been demanding of men constantly and how it’s transformed us to fit whatever it needed at the time: dispensable soldiers, cogs-in-the-machine type workers, 9-to-5 submissive employees, etc. As well as the different mechanisms our environment has shaped our beliefs and habits and ways of facing emotions to support those needed roles.
And so, I see the same situations over and over again in people who come to me:
Knowing that man has been taught to be validated by others, and see him constantly wanting attention from the other sex without having been given the proper tools to do so.
Going through the days feeling numb or empty, with little joy or fulfillment, wondering if this is the way it’s supposed to be until the end.
Feeling pressured to constantly rise-up to the challenges that present themselves having had no one to guide them or showing them the correct way to face them.
I get it. I truly get the pain my patients feel because for many of those issues, I felt them myself. And I know both ways out, the Pyrrhic and the efficacious.
Like our patients, you deserve to think about, prepare, and face your challenges knowing why they happen and how to actually fix them.
You deserve to no longer stumble in the dark, alone.
You deserve to go about your day knowing you’re good enough and knowing you are working on yourself.
All the time.
No matter what.
If you want to feel comfortable in your own skin, I’d love to help you get there.
Schedule an appointment today. You don’t have to suffer. I can help.
